Is the love the love of someone or of some thing?

"Do I love someone for the absolute singularity of who they are or do? Do I love you because you are you? Do I love your qualities, your beauty, your intelligence? Does one love someone, or does one love something about some? The difference between the who and the what at the heart of love, separates the heart."

This might explain why it is so easy to fall out of love. These things appear to be interchangeable and depend on the understanding of the self. The world is not as it is, but as we are. It has been said, change is inevitable, growth is optional. It seems logical to add, perception will change, reality is optional. In relationships, perception is not static. Why would we expect our understanding of a relationship partner to remain static. It seems that in order for a relationship to survive, there needs to be a healthy balance between the incorporation of reality and the defenses allowing one to believe in a blissful perception of the other. Similarly "In life the questions don't change, just the answers do." ~AZ.